•I made her to get varsity education, she then started dating other men, says my standard is too low —Man
He never finished his primary school education but lied that he was a graduate.
“I took loans to feed and clothe him and our children, but all I got from him were beatings.
“He refused that I further my education, accused me of adultery and lacerated my private part during sex.”
“There was never a time I shirked my responsibility as the head of the home.
“I encouraged her to sit for the secondary school leaving examination and helped in processing her admission into the university.
“She suddenly changed and treated me with scorn and contempt on resuming on campus.
“She started dating other men and declared that I was too low for her standard.”
These were some of the testimonies given by a couple, Modupe Oyelade and Aderemi Oyelade at Oja Oba/ Mapo Court C Customary Court, Mapo, Ibadan, Oyo State.
Modupe had dragged her husband to court pleading that it halt the relationship between them.
Modupe in her suit claimed that her husband never gave her peace of mind. She accused him of irresponsibility, battery, threat to life and an attempt to use her for ritual.
The plaintiff prayed the court to grant her custody of their four children and make the defendant responsible for their upkeep.
She further appealed to the court to restrain him from coming to harass or fight her at her place of residence or work place.
Aderemi denied all the allegations brought before him by his wife, but acceded to divorce.
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According to him, their marriage was happy and peaceful until Modupe gained admission into an institution of higher learning and started misbehaving.
He explained that she became proud and promiscuous and took to scorning her. The defendant said the plaintiff always said he no longer measured up to her standard.
The defendant begged the court not to grant her prayer on the children stating that he was capable of looking after their welfare.
Aderemi explained that he never failed to send them feeding allowance and pay their school fees since their mother took them away from him.
Giving his judgment, the court president, Chief Ademola Odunade noted that there was no more love between them.
Ruling, he dissolved their union and awarded custody of their four children to the plaintiff.
The defendant was mandated to be in charge of their welfare and give education and medical care the topmost priority.
Odunade further ordered him to give their children N20, 000 per month as feeding allowance.
This, he stated must be carried out through the court.
Modupe in her evidence explained that: “My marriage to Aderemi has been faced with challenges from its outset.
“We fought always because he never took care of me and our children while our apartment looked like a pigsty. I, therefore, discourage people from paying us visits.
“I was the one fending for the family; I would borrow money from different micro finance banks to feed him and our children and clothe them. Some other responsibilities I took up were that of paying the house rent and our children’s school fees. Aderemi would refuse to give me a dime even when the children took ill.
“He always got angry any time I pleaded with him to manage the small ration of food remaining after the children had eaten. He would beat me with cable.
“I never enjoyed sex with him. Our mattresses were old, worn out and the covers torn. So also were other furniture in the house. We have been using them since we got married 17 years ago.
“Since our bed was in a rickety state, he would put our mattress which is thin and uncomfortable on the floor and we would make love there.
“Aderemi never ceased to accuse me of infidelity. We once had sex and unknown to me and he had lacerated my private part and I bled profusely.